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"WHEN OPPOSITES ATTACK"

‘Opposites attract', yea we must have heard this time and time again, it is the law of nature, if you want to have a great relationship, look for an opposite. people who are dramatically different fr0m us are often the most attractive, this comes from common sense and reasoning, our lives are usually enriched by connections to others who have abilities that we don’t have. But unluckily, applying this lesson to our romantic pursuit can be a huge recipe for DISASTER"

Oh i know i know, craving for a relationship where we fill-in the gaps for someone else makes us needed, valuable and secure. That is so true, opposites really do attract, and yes it does. The places in which you are weak, your hubby should be strong. The traits in which he's lacking, you are overflowing. if your motto in life is "no worries ,it will be done", find a partner whose motto is "if i don’t do it, then no one else will", that way, he's the gas, and you are the brakes. Opposite attraction is a beautiful thing when your differences are sweetly inter-related.

   Some couples are brought together by their differences, but on the long run, it’s those same differences that repel them apart in a devastating manner. take for instance he loves to go dancing, clubbing and partying, while she loves to lay on the couch and just watch tv..One has a smoking, drinking or drug habits while the other is as gentle as a lamb.. One wants to save for the future while the other wants to enjoy life now. One is dying for some more conversations while the other wants more peace and quiet. When these conflicts of differences exponentially increase, gbrrraaaaa!!,the ship starts to sink. OPPOSITES THEN BEGINS TO ATTACK!

REALITY is, we are never going to build anything superb in life if we don’t put efforts to it.a great relationship don’t require a great meeting of the minds. You and your partner are different people. Recognize how your partner enriches your life, rather than how much they ought to be better.

HOW CAN I MAKE MY OPPOSITE WORK?

NO, she cannot be just like you, she cannot talk, eat, brush her teeth, do this, do that, just the way you want it. Many of us have lost good relationships because we fail to appreciate our differences. if u both are too similar the relationship will be too boring. the excitement and challenges of your relationship comes from your differences; but the beauty and ease of the relationship comes from the similarities, things you both share in common ,like religion, values, goals, purpose, etc.

1.pick ur battles,if u dont like the way ur partner talks loudly on the phone,leave the room and dont listen.

2.dont wait until there is a fight to resolve issues,thats when hot blood is flowing and temper rising,have a calm discusion during times of peace.

3.always compromise,relationships are all about making the right negotiations, if you miss a football game to spend time with your partner in a salon will the world crumble?,

4. be interested in the things that to your partner likes, if he loves to watch football  ,it won’t bite if you find out some stuff about his favorite club side , if they won the last game or not, those little facts help conversation.

5. learn to adjust, if she doesn’t like your LEGION of friends pls do cut them down to minimum.

CONCLUSIVELY, opposites makes a better relationship ,but it’s how mature you handle your differences, that determines how far the ship sails.

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