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#Talking Deep "THE KILLER WORD . . . . . .  SPACE"

   To my dismay, it is a pity that many still do not know what it means when the word 'space' is mentioned in a relationship, especially when uttered by a male partner.

“I need some space”  “I need time for myself” “We need a break”

“I think we should spend some time apart to understand each other”

   All these are fairly common lines from partners who are probably tired of the adventure, and thus seek to end it, trust me, it is never a good sign when you hear ANY one of these. But then, does it mean the relationship is over? , is such a partner looking for your replacement? What exactly does it mean?

Am sure these questions are running a track and field on your mind right now.

Yea, those lines are usually a nice way of saying “I don’t want to hurt your feelings, you are nice and all, but the spark is gone, am bored, unhappy and I want to find someone new". The relationship is practically as good as OVER! Your partner is planning to pull apart, that’s if he hasn’t done that already.

These words aren’t just uttered without deep thoughts; such a partner must have been insecure for days, weeks and even months. Lately everything seems to be heavy between you two, things are not light or lively, you both stopped having fun, and romance is dead, etcetera etcetera etcetera.

But HEY, Don’t be too precipitous in declaring the relationship over.

The phrase “I need some space” might just mean that you are not too available, and you need to start getting back into his or her life just like when you two first met. Just because someone wants some space doesn’t mean it is over, naaaa, I don’t hang around my friends every day, it gets boring, we take a break ('some space') and then we're best of friends again. Maybe you've just been hanging around him too much, maybe you haven’t been giving him your time, or on the other hand maybe he's just tired of the relationship and wants a fresh adventure with someone new.

Please NEVER conclude too quickly, EVEN AFTER THE KILLER WORD IS MENTIONED, THAT RELATIONSHIP IS STILL NOT OVER UNTIL YOU GIVE YOUR PARTNER WHAT HE WANTS . . . "SPACE".

Article inspired by: #ABHyacintho

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